MBONA ULIHAMA KTALK?

Kabuda

Kabuda

Elder Lister
Nefertities said:
I commented to @pseudonym in passing that I often wonder whether it is I who doesn't understand the dynamics of human interaction especially when it comes to friendship as looked at through the circle created by (and I'm just picking 5 individuals), yourself, @Purple, @Mrs. Shosho, @Patco, @Makena

A few weeks ago, Makena would be the sweetest person to MFW on one thread and then bitterly insult Purple in another, MFW on her part, can not stand Patco but dots on Purple as if she were both her blood sister and daughter at the same time (happens in Alabama btw) and then we have you who just admitted to being unable to stand Purple but you obviously have some platonic (or whatever) relationship with MFW even outside of ktalk.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying adults should follow each other blindly or choose friends who only like their friends, but ... :unsure: don't you think it'd be weird if I was your friend and also the friend of someone else who genuinely shows dislike for you?

I get the whole "oooh this is just a virtual world" tripe, but when even strangers on the internet can tell that you do have an IRL personal relationship with someone, it just stands to reason that you'd defend them or at the very least, stay away from someone who would genuinely insult them on an anonymous board.

It's honestly some kind of trippy shit to watch.
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Indeed it must be you that either doesn't understand the dynamics of friendship Or chooses to have a romantic unrealistic expectation of how people interact.
How do you go through life expecting all your friends to get along with you as the common denominator?
Everyone is an individual and you relate to different people on different levels.
How can you then expect everyone you like to like everyone that likes you?

Me, I choose to tell it as it is.
And just because we get along today doesn't mean that I may not change my mind about how I relate to you if you change or I discover some traits about you that I don't like down the line...

I think that you need to learn to compartmentalize your friends and don't expect too much from people.
As someone said, one thing that you can count on from the people you care for most, it's that they will let you down at some point.
We're just human and we're not perfect, make the choice to see the good in people and don't rely on anyone else to make you happy.
Love yourself more.
 
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Nefertities

Nefertities

Elder Lister
Kabuda said:
Indeed it must be you that either doesn't understand the dynamics of friendship Or chooses to have a romantic unrealistic expectation of how people interact.
How do you go through life expecting all your friends to get along with you as the common denominator?
Everyone is an individual and you relate to different people on different levels.
How can you then expect everyone you like to like everyone that likes you?

Me, I choose to tell it as it is.
And just because we get along today doesn't mean that I may not change my mind about how I relate to you if you change or I discover some traits about you that I don't like down the line...

I think that you need to learn to compartmentalize your friends and do

Indeed
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Naaaaaah. When you're close enough for your relationship to be visible to strangers on the net, it's real.

Also, I like to think my compartmentalization skills aren't too shoddy. I have a friend or two on ktalk and I have never hounded and called them "endearing" names to the point of causing actual illness.

The rules of human interaction dictate that if you decide to publicly show excessive love, then you are also choosing to be just as intense in the opposite circumstances. It's just common sense. If I don't want to have to follow through with the rules of the playground, then I'll find a blurry line on the edges which lets me play while not really playing ... i.e., what most people on a forum like ktalk do.
 
Kabuda

Kabuda

Elder Lister
Nefertities said:
Naaaaaah. When you're close enough for your relationship to be visible to strangers on the net, it's real.

Also, I like to think my compartmentalization skills aren't too shoddy. I have a friend or two on ktalk and I have never hounded and called them "endearing" names to the point of causing actual illness.

The rules of human interaction dictate that if you decide to publicly show excessive love, then you are also choosing to be just as intense in the opposite circumstances. It's just common sense. If I don't want to have to follow through with the rules of the playground, then I'll find a blurry line on the edges which lets me play while not really playing ... i.e., what most people on a forum like ktalk do.
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You're doing it again!...
I can feel the undertones of you basically judging me as your enemy because a friend of mine wronged you.
I am not them and I can't defend or desert them because of an issue that you two had away from me.
But according to you, I must be on their side or on yours...
That's just not how human interactions work. ( Not the masculine ones anyway!... kikikikkkk....)
 
Nefertities

Nefertities

Elder Lister
Kabuda said:
you basically judging me as your enemy because a friend of mine wronged you.
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Wrong. I don't bother hiding my opinion of someone and if you're completely honest, you will admit that the way I interacted with you before your "friends" joined the forum and after didn't change.


Kabuda said:
But according to you, I must be on their side or on yours...
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This isn't even about you and I. I specifically commented on the dynamic which comes off when the circle of friends youre in is looked at.

You're obviously bringing in all kinds of little ad hominem items to convolute the main point in my comment. But ni sawa. Jibambe.
 
Kabuda

Kabuda

Elder Lister
Nefertities said:
Wrong. I don't bother hiding my opinion of someone and if you're completely honest, you will admit that the way I interacted with you before your "friends" joined the forum and after didn't change.




This isn't even about you and I. I specifically commented on the dynamic which comes off when the circle of friends youre in is looked at.

You're obviously bringing in all kinds of little ad hominem items to convolute the main point in my comment. But ni sawa. Jibambe.
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Oh no, I just gave me and you as an example. And I don't think that I belong to any clique on Ktalk. It probably seems like that but maybe it was a natural progression from those days when we couldn't speak out without getting grief just because we are abroad.
This thing should be fun. But inbox took away all the fun because it killed the anonymity.
Damn that inbox!...
 
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