Life lesson of the year 2019, what have you learnt?

Kabuda

Kabuda

Elder Lister
Mimi I have learned to always answer my phone ata kama it's an unknown number.
One of my best mates took his own life on the night I didn't answer his call because he had a new number.
He was a jungu and I really didn't appreciate what mark Tom had made in my life in the six years I knew him.
One of those jungus who have no airs or graces about them he used to chill out with me and we would exchange antiques ( he loved collecting clocks) and old cars, army relics etc..
But most of all we shared in the simple philosophies of live and let live.

I think about Tom everyday and find it difficult to believe that he is gone.
I will be going about my business and I will see something and I want to check with him and get his opinion and then I remember that he is dead!
Tom is dead!..
I've lost close friends and relatives but I have to say that Tom has managed to Fcuk with my head more than anyone else has.

Four months on and I wish I answered that unknown call that night....if only to say goodbye to Tom.



New resolution for me:
Always answer all your calls, it might be the last time they ever call you.



What life lessons do you Listers take from 2019?
 
I've learnt to always put my pride aside when it comes to texting or calling.... checking up on someone generally. I lost a very close friend of mine to cancer and another died a few days after being hospitalized.... All I was procastinating to check up on them. Decisions I've been regretting and sometimes I shed tears 😭😭😭😭 if we are close I will often 'bother’ you with my calls and texts.... doesn't matter what you think.
 
People need more cheery life lessons !

I learnt that you don’t need to buy self help books to become a better person ,No! all you need to do is enter a bookstore , go to the self help section and read most of the book titles and bam ! You will save a shit load of money and feel brand new. Everything you need to set you on a good path is right there on the covers .
 
This year has made me learn that your character is ultimately defined by the people you hang around. That those ideas that you think are out of the norm from your friends, gradually seep into your character as long as you are associating with them, no matter how strong you think you are. Just like you don't notice a kid gain height but people who have not seen the kid in a while will see a drastic change. Story for another day Ata kama sija maliza hio ingine.
 
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For me, this pic summarizes my 2019.
 
Swansea said:
As a tree grows to its full potential, you have to keep pruning it. Same as in life, you can't take everyone with you along that journey. You have to "prune" some people, friends from your life to realize your full potential. Unapologetically, if need be.
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I concur, also I have fully embraced 'Mediations' sentiment, men will always do what they have always done.
Moving forward I will never correct anyone, I'll stand far enough so the muck doesn't touch me.
 
Everyday is a learning lesson, each day with it's own challenges, how you rise to solve them and look at them matters a lot
 
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