Cassey Tash
Lister
We're all in a family, and for the longest time, people have only categorized 'family' as being blood related. We have seen so many 'family members' being mistreated just because they are related.
So many people don't speak to their family members for one reason or the other, they spend so many years healing from the traumatic experience in the name of 'family first.'
No offense to the rich people but they're the most overrated 'family first' users. They'd invite their relatives to their homes only to abuse them physically and psychologically. They tend to remind their not so well off family members how they can dismiss them using their money.
I have realized that people who use the 'family first' phrase are either using it for PR reasons or need some healings to do. I don't understand why they'd say family comes first and mistreat their friends who'll stick by them whenever family abandons them.
For the record, a stranger can treat you better than people you're related to. How many times in a week have we seen and heard of rapes, murder, mistreatment and so many things that family members do to each other?
'Family first' is overrated, why would someone mistreat and abuse his or her blood? Was the 'family first' phrase on their mind while doing so?
I have highlighted why I think the phrase 'family first' might be overrated;
1. Domestic violence
For the longest time, homes have been labelled creme scenes. Spouses have been violent with each other, this has led to deaths. A Kawangware man was arrested for murdering his wife and a witness was recorded saying that the husband to the deceased kept reminding his wife that they were not related and it wouldn't hurt him if she was dead.
If 'family first' wasn't overrated, there wouldn't be such incidences. It is written that the two shall become one, meaning the moment you decide to stay with someone, they automatically become your family, but the author didn't state about. I guess the best phrase to describe this scenario is 'you're hurt most by those you love'. Think about it.
2. Psychological abuse
We all have a family member who can't go a day without reminding you of how stupid you are and can't do something meaningful especially if you fully depend on them, that is staying in their house or working for them.
In my opinion, psychological abuse is worse than any form of abuse. This is where mental health issues start. Someone ends up living their whole life knowing they are useless to society. People commit suicide due to psychological abuse. If 'family first' was real, wouldn't some members consider others? It is overrated for sure.
3. Financial abuse
Orphans are financially abused by their family members. When their parents die, they make empty promises on how they will take care of the orphans and even stay with them. The most outspoken members of the family sell all the properties, fight for lands and squander the money living the orphans uneducated, poor and living on the streets.
When the children ask for basic needs, they are beaten up and chase like stray dogs. This is why the 'family first' phrase is overrated and overused.
Treat your friends nicely, love and support them they might help you if the 'family first' phrase becomes nothing to you. Friends take you to places your toxic family members won't. In addition, if you don't believe in friendship, develop a trustworthy friend with one of your siblings
If you haven't experienced such from TOXIC family members, you're so lucky!
So many people don't speak to their family members for one reason or the other, they spend so many years healing from the traumatic experience in the name of 'family first.'
No offense to the rich people but they're the most overrated 'family first' users. They'd invite their relatives to their homes only to abuse them physically and psychologically. They tend to remind their not so well off family members how they can dismiss them using their money.
I have realized that people who use the 'family first' phrase are either using it for PR reasons or need some healings to do. I don't understand why they'd say family comes first and mistreat their friends who'll stick by them whenever family abandons them.
For the record, a stranger can treat you better than people you're related to. How many times in a week have we seen and heard of rapes, murder, mistreatment and so many things that family members do to each other?
'Family first' is overrated, why would someone mistreat and abuse his or her blood? Was the 'family first' phrase on their mind while doing so?
I have highlighted why I think the phrase 'family first' might be overrated;
1. Domestic violence
For the longest time, homes have been labelled creme scenes. Spouses have been violent with each other, this has led to deaths. A Kawangware man was arrested for murdering his wife and a witness was recorded saying that the husband to the deceased kept reminding his wife that they were not related and it wouldn't hurt him if she was dead.
If 'family first' wasn't overrated, there wouldn't be such incidences. It is written that the two shall become one, meaning the moment you decide to stay with someone, they automatically become your family, but the author didn't state about. I guess the best phrase to describe this scenario is 'you're hurt most by those you love'. Think about it.
2. Psychological abuse
We all have a family member who can't go a day without reminding you of how stupid you are and can't do something meaningful especially if you fully depend on them, that is staying in their house or working for them.
In my opinion, psychological abuse is worse than any form of abuse. This is where mental health issues start. Someone ends up living their whole life knowing they are useless to society. People commit suicide due to psychological abuse. If 'family first' was real, wouldn't some members consider others? It is overrated for sure.
3. Financial abuse
Orphans are financially abused by their family members. When their parents die, they make empty promises on how they will take care of the orphans and even stay with them. The most outspoken members of the family sell all the properties, fight for lands and squander the money living the orphans uneducated, poor and living on the streets.
When the children ask for basic needs, they are beaten up and chase like stray dogs. This is why the 'family first' phrase is overrated and overused.
Treat your friends nicely, love and support them they might help you if the 'family first' phrase becomes nothing to you. Friends take you to places your toxic family members won't. In addition, if you don't believe in friendship, develop a trustworthy friend with one of your siblings
If you haven't experienced such from TOXIC family members, you're so lucky!
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