Kabuda
Elder Lister
Family is sacred.
Family is all you have left even when you're dead and nobody else will claim your lifeless body.
Family is all the people who have your back unconditionally.
In their eyes, members of your family should love you and never judge you.And even when you're wrong, family shouldn't be seen to judge you.
They should protect you and your faults from the outsider's.
Family is the last grip of the straw you should have when you're desperate for loyalty, don't need to be judged and require unconditional love.
So what if your family don't, won't and have Never risen to this basic requirements in your life as far as you can remember?
Should you carry on pretending that you have family?...
Or is it ok to draw the line and wake up to the fact that you were born alone, and will die alone anyway?
That it's a mean world and that you probably were an unwanted, inconvenient pregnancy that unconsciously reminds every other member of your family what hardships and difficulty your being brought to the rest of them.
In most families, there is always a person that for no fault of their own, always ends up being the outsider.
So Jana, I got talking to this guy at work because we were delayed.
Don't know the fucker from Adam but in no time he opens up and gives me more information than I was prepared for!..
(Jungus hawanaga Siri anyway so I'll take it..)
Apparently; he is fourth in a family of five and as long as he can remember, one of his older sisters always hated him.
Childhood memories are clouded by memories of bullying and emotional abuse.
If the sister wasn't telling him that he smelled, she was accusing him of all sorts of to get him punished by his parents who would believe her over him!
This guy basically lived his whole childhood trying to be accepted by his own family.
And all he got was either half hearted acknowledgment of downright rejection.
But he is a strong personality this guy so from an early age, he learns to be strong.
He adopts to knowing that it's him against the world.
But that only serves to distance himself from his family.
Why try to fit in where you're not wanted anyway?
But for this he gets even more grief because he is blamed for isolating himself etc...
But this is what breaks the last straw for this Camel.
Before lockdown, he has to attend a family gathering because it was their parent's wedding anniversary.
Things are going as smoothly as a tension filled family gathering where you have to show your face lest you get accused of being the villain go.
The sister has never got along with any of this guy's girlfriends or his present wife.
In her eyes, they are all sluts.
He could tolerate it but it hurts him that the same sister refused to attend his only daughters baptism!
And that's after he rose up to the occasion for her son to whom this guy was the God father!
Pure betrayal!..
And she is a single mother.
Like with every family gathering, there is that time in the evening when even on a nice summer's day, everyone gathers back into the house.
Everyone is a bit tipsy and eventually, hometruths are going to cum out.
Kidogo, the sister has a go at the guy and unfortunately, the guy's wife interjects.
The sister stands up ,looks straight into the guy's eyes and tells the guy that the child his wife is holding is not even his.
She goes on to name all the guys that could be the father this baby.
And not his parents or other siblings stood up to stop her.
The guy just stands there and takes in all the humiliation knowing full well that he had put his wife through a DNA test owing to all the rumours spewed by non other but her own sister all through the pregnancy about the paternity of his child.
But one thing changes from that day in this guy's life.
Blood is not necessarily thicker than water.
Family is overrated.
If you cannot count on family when you really need someone on your side unconditionally, what makes you think that you're not on your own in this life?
This guy is a religious guy and for months after this occasion, he prayed for guidance and in the end, he decided to cut off his sister from his life.
He won't answer her calls or acknowledge her.
As far as he is concerned, he is dead in her sister's life and he will never forgive her for denying his kids.
He doesn't care if they never meet again in this Life.
I agree with this guy, if it's causing you more pain than pleasure, cut it off your life.
And that includes toxic friends and family.
Life is too short to tolerate abuse.
And behind every person who continually asks you and expects your forgiveness every time, there is an Emotional abuser!
If you have to ask and expect forgiveness from the Same person continually, you are an abuser.
Did any of you guys ever have to Cut off someone close to you?
Family is all you have left even when you're dead and nobody else will claim your lifeless body.
Family is all the people who have your back unconditionally.
In their eyes, members of your family should love you and never judge you.And even when you're wrong, family shouldn't be seen to judge you.
They should protect you and your faults from the outsider's.
Family is the last grip of the straw you should have when you're desperate for loyalty, don't need to be judged and require unconditional love.
So what if your family don't, won't and have Never risen to this basic requirements in your life as far as you can remember?
Should you carry on pretending that you have family?...
Or is it ok to draw the line and wake up to the fact that you were born alone, and will die alone anyway?
That it's a mean world and that you probably were an unwanted, inconvenient pregnancy that unconsciously reminds every other member of your family what hardships and difficulty your being brought to the rest of them.
In most families, there is always a person that for no fault of their own, always ends up being the outsider.
So Jana, I got talking to this guy at work because we were delayed.
Don't know the fucker from Adam but in no time he opens up and gives me more information than I was prepared for!..
(Jungus hawanaga Siri anyway so I'll take it..)
Apparently; he is fourth in a family of five and as long as he can remember, one of his older sisters always hated him.
Childhood memories are clouded by memories of bullying and emotional abuse.
If the sister wasn't telling him that he smelled, she was accusing him of all sorts of to get him punished by his parents who would believe her over him!
This guy basically lived his whole childhood trying to be accepted by his own family.
And all he got was either half hearted acknowledgment of downright rejection.
But he is a strong personality this guy so from an early age, he learns to be strong.
He adopts to knowing that it's him against the world.
But that only serves to distance himself from his family.
Why try to fit in where you're not wanted anyway?
But for this he gets even more grief because he is blamed for isolating himself etc...
But this is what breaks the last straw for this Camel.
Before lockdown, he has to attend a family gathering because it was their parent's wedding anniversary.
Things are going as smoothly as a tension filled family gathering where you have to show your face lest you get accused of being the villain go.
The sister has never got along with any of this guy's girlfriends or his present wife.
In her eyes, they are all sluts.
He could tolerate it but it hurts him that the same sister refused to attend his only daughters baptism!
And that's after he rose up to the occasion for her son to whom this guy was the God father!
Pure betrayal!..
And she is a single mother.
Like with every family gathering, there is that time in the evening when even on a nice summer's day, everyone gathers back into the house.
Everyone is a bit tipsy and eventually, hometruths are going to cum out.
Kidogo, the sister has a go at the guy and unfortunately, the guy's wife interjects.
The sister stands up ,looks straight into the guy's eyes and tells the guy that the child his wife is holding is not even his.
She goes on to name all the guys that could be the father this baby.
And not his parents or other siblings stood up to stop her.
The guy just stands there and takes in all the humiliation knowing full well that he had put his wife through a DNA test owing to all the rumours spewed by non other but her own sister all through the pregnancy about the paternity of his child.
But one thing changes from that day in this guy's life.
Blood is not necessarily thicker than water.
Family is overrated.
If you cannot count on family when you really need someone on your side unconditionally, what makes you think that you're not on your own in this life?
This guy is a religious guy and for months after this occasion, he prayed for guidance and in the end, he decided to cut off his sister from his life.
He won't answer her calls or acknowledge her.
As far as he is concerned, he is dead in her sister's life and he will never forgive her for denying his kids.
He doesn't care if they never meet again in this Life.
I agree with this guy, if it's causing you more pain than pleasure, cut it off your life.
And that includes toxic friends and family.
Life is too short to tolerate abuse.
And behind every person who continually asks you and expects your forgiveness every time, there is an Emotional abuser!
If you have to ask and expect forgiveness from the Same person continually, you are an abuser.
Did any of you guys ever have to Cut off someone close to you?
devil"!!
