The moment you notice how insecure you are, you immunity goes down, fever kicks in and blood pressure goes up. Men are not like women, they have ego and value respect more than love. Women will cry to win sympathy but as a man you swallow it and take the blame. It is not wise for a man to marry when young, you invest in things that will not come to your aid at old age. Again it is very wrong for a man to think he will invest in his family with aim it will take care of him when old. Why would you expect your son to feed, cloth and provide you shelter at his young age when you yourself at his age you invested for the comfort of your family. Do not lie that you did it for him, you preferred the comfort that comes with family. Use your twenties and thirties to invest on things that are truly yours and will provide income at old age. Watoto si investment and raising them is not a favour. Leave your age mate girls to wazee and concentrate on securing your future. Avoid party after party with young girls they are eating your future. Do this and you will live long like moi and sir Njonjo