A truth some people don't like to hear

$$$ said:
Hapo pa giving him a business idea hiyo umetoa kwa akili yako. I don't remember typing that.

Yes. Drip feeding handouts to your struggling siblings hauwasaidii (if you are very wealthy). Financing his business is actual help and empowerment. It is the equivalent of giving a man a fishing boat and nets. Give him a tool of making money instead of peanuts. Kama utamnunulia nduthi ajitegemee ni sawa pia. That's empowerment.

You can't give a struggling sibling 2k and then wonder why he or she is still poor. Haumsaidii kujitoa kwa umaskini. You are only saving him or her from starving for a week. Short-term thinking a.k.a giving a man a fish.

NB: This only applies if you are wealthy. Kama wewe ni struggling middle class ama peasant jisaidie kwanza. If you are worth hundreds of millions and can't spare just 1 to finance your brother's venture, then you have no right to boast that you are helping him or her to escape poverty because you aren't.

I once helped a relative to pay for a stall ya kanjo and stock it. She has never lacked since then from that small business. That's empowerment.
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Be thinned by yours. Wewe fanya vile unataka. The rest ain't obligated to anyone. Helping a relative nwenye hajakuomba umsaidie ama mwenye hajui vile anataka kusaidiwa sii rahisi vile unafikiria. I know of several families that fell out after kujaribu kusaidia the black sheep among them. Unaweza pata hata mzazi ndio hataki jamaa achoke anaambia wale siblings wanajiweza wapatie ndugu yao ama Dada yao hand outs since the proposed solution would mean kababa ama kamama atike nje achoke kama wenzake.
 
Baba wacha kutubebea akili. Sisi pia tushawahi saidiwa na relatives but the iniative was solely ours and we made it clear to our benefactors that we own the success or failure of our dreams. Hii ingine ya kufanyiwa sijui umetoa wapi?
 
$$$ said:
Hapo kwa siblings wa politicians languishing in poverty ni ukweli mtupu. Reminds me of Kibaki's siblings. His brother and sister were living in poverty despite the guy being in government for decades. These siblings sacrificed their own education so that Kibaki could get educated. Kibaki akaomoka akajitoa halafu akasema watu wafanye kazi wajitegemee :ROFLMAO: . Wangetoa wapi high paying jobs without education? Hii story should teach young people that some sacrifices are not worth making even for siblings.

Imagine being a billionaire (he used to own Union Towers hapa Moi Avenue among other assets) na hata huwezi funga macho ujengee your siblings (who sacrificed for your education) bungalow ya 4M each??

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Mambo ya familia za watu achana tu nayo, ukicheza utasomesha mtu na watoto wake. Never criticise someone that he is doing well and not helping out his brothers, micii ni ndogo. To some family members are so evil that strangers look like angels to them.
 
I never understood that stuff.I as the elder brother can practically get my younger siblings to send me all the disposable cash they have on them for any project i feel fit to undertake. I have never done it and would never but i could do it anytime and they wont think about it twice. I could never sleep knowing my blood sibling is thinking of their next meal.
 
The thing is, most successful siblings are mean with their money and will give 1 million excuses for not attempting to empower their brothers and sisters wenye wako juu ya mawe. They would rather drip feed peanuts to their siblings and have them working as their servants than empower them financially. People should be very careful about the sacrifices they make for siblings because it does not guarantee that they will reciprocate when they succeed - Kibaki style.
 
It's Me Scumbag said:
You missed the point. The one we were building up to...look closer.
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Keter:. Lootall ni mwisi. Anaibaga, ataiba atuaibishe sisi Wakalenjin.

emptyDebeListers:. Keter ni mwisi pia. Hata akiniambia Kuna jamaa anaiba simu yangu sitaangalia. Yeye mwisi.

@bigDog:. @emptyDebeListers si msikize Keter, pengine anasema ukweli. Si muangalie evidence ya looting. SI muangalie the guys who hang around your prince?

@emptyDebeListers:. We are hustlers. Tunataka wheelbarrows. Fuak macho nyanya... Fuak dynasties. We want a thief who is just is just like us. Anatoa pesa za harambee ya church. Siyo mkono gum kama Jayden.

@bigDog:. (Vigorously disappointed) Do you know why ole Kibaki wanted to have harambees banned? Do you know how CDF came about?
 
$$$ said:
The thing is, most successful siblings are mean with their money and will give 1 million excuses for not attempting to empower their brothers and sisters wenye wako juu ya mawe. They would rather drip feed peanuts to their siblings and have them working as their servants than empower them financially. People should be very careful about the sacrifices they make for siblings because it does not guarantee that they will reciprocate when they succeed - Kibaki style.
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More than 60% of SME fail within the first the first year (KNBS 2007). Why do you think your sibling should take such a huge bet, his time and effort while you are hands off? Do you think this points to some sense of entitlement? Can you learn a marketable skill and try it out there? Many successful people start their businesses as side hustles and leave formal employment once the hustle takes off.

Think of your better endowed sibling as an angel investor in your business. Approach them with a well thought idea complete with a workable plan. Expecting a sibling to do everything for you is immature. Remember they have their own responsibilities and you are not their child.

Your relatives are not responsible for your success.

Even sir God refused that responsibility.
 
bigDog said:
More than 60% of SME fail within the first the first year (KNBS 2007). Why do you think your sibling should take such a huge bet, his time and effort while you are hands off? Do you think this points to some sense of entitlement? Can you learn a marketable skill and try it out there? Many successful people start their businesses as side hustles and leave formal employment once the hustle takes off.

Think of your better endowed sibling as an angel investor in your business. Approach them with a well thought idea complete with a workable plan. Expecting a sibling to do everything for you is immature. Remember they have their own responsibilities and you are not their child.

Your relatives are not responsible for your success.

Even sir God refused that responsibility.
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It is common to find guys with tens or hundreds of millions and they can't even buy a motorbike for a struggling sibling kule ocha. Marketable skills mainly work for young people kuna age ikifika starting a business for a relative is the smarter thing to do. Kama hiyo example nimepeana hapo juu, I financed a relative's business and right now she has made something out of it and I am very proud. Kama ningempea 2k za hiyo mwezi ningekuwa nimemsaidia aje?? About success rate of enterprises, your job is to help them launch their ideas, if they don't succeed, you can take a break for a decade knowing that you tried. I tried to help another one launch a business but the business failed, so I took a long break from helping him and won't help him for a few more years, but the important thing is that I tried. Kupea mtu pesa in drips is not offering sincere help to take a person out of poverty, especially a grown adult.

Nimepeana a very good example of a watchman. One person ampee 2k monthly for the next 10 years, na mwingine amnunulie motorbike. Nani amesaidia huyo watchman?? One person has empowered the watchman economically, the other has provided the watchman with short-term monetary relief which can't really transform his life.

Drip feeding resources in the name of "helping" relatives is equivalent to giving a man a fish. If you drip feed peanuts to a relative, you should never go chest-thumping that you tried to save them from poverty because you didn't. You only fulfilled their short-term needs.
 
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bigDog said:
Keter:. Lootall ni mwisi. Anaibaga, ataiba atuaibishe sisi Wakalenjin.

emptyDebeListers:. Keter ni mwisi pia. Hata akiniambia Kuna jamaa anaiba simu yangu sitaangalia. Yeye mwisi.

@bigDog:. @emptyDebeListers si msikize Keter, pengine anasema ukweli. Si muangalie evidence ya looting. SI muangalie the guys who hang around your prince?

@emptyDebeListers:. We are hustlers. Tunataka wheelbarrows. Fuak macho nyanya... Fuak dynasties. We want a thief who is just is just like us. Anatoa pesa za harambee ya church. Siyo mkono gum kama Jayden.

@bigDog:. (Vigorously disappointed) Do you know why ole Kibaki wanted to have harambees banned? Do you know how CDF came about?
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And why did that miser wanted to have harambees banned na pesa sio ya mamake huwa wanatoa?
 
$$$ said:
The thing is, most successful siblings are mean with their money and will give 1 million excuses for not attempting to empower their brothers and sisters wenye wako juu ya mawe. They would rather drip feed peanuts to their siblings and have them working as their servants than empower them financially. People should be very careful about the sacrifices they make for siblings because it does not guarantee that they will reciprocate when they succeed - Kibaki style.
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I know very many people who have tried helping their siblings but hawasaidiki. Unafungulia your bro kazi analewa daily mpaka ina anguka.. Mwingine aliandikisha his elder bro kazi ya udereva kwa serikali kazi ilikua warembo na ulevi in government vehicles mpaka akafutwa..
 
Sambamba said:
I know very many people who have tried helping their siblings but hawasaidiki. Unafungulia your bro kazi analewa daily mpaka ina anguka.. Mwingine aliandikisha his elder bro kazi ya udereva kwa serikali kazi ilikua warembo na ulevi in government vehicles mpaka akafutwa..
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True. Wako. The point is they tried. Most people give peanuts in drips instead of providing actual help. By the way mimi kuna wenye nilifinance biz wakashindwa at least I have a clear conscience nikijuanga nilijaribu wakashindwa sio kuwapea 2k once in a blue moon.
 
$$$ said:
True. Wako. The point is they tried. Most people give peanuts in drips instead of providing actual help. By the way mimi kuna wenye nilifinance biz wakashindwa at least I have a clear conscience nikijuanga nilijaribu wakashindwa sio kuwapea 2k once in a blue moon.
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You are begin to sound like a broken record. What evidence so you have that had rich relatives hawajawahi saidiana? Umeambiwa hapo juu mambo ya siblings ondokea since hauishi nao.
 
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