How do I know if my man truly loves me?
Men are difficult to understand. Women struggle hard when it comes to understanding the man they love, but if you're observant and patient, men are comparatively simpler. Here are some points to check to know if he's really in love or not..
1. Men don't say they love you. Unlike women, who are always vocal about her feelings, men keep their feelings unsaid. But, if a man really loves you, it will show in his actions. For eg : if you tell him that you need him, he will be there for you. If a man is excessively vocal, and make big gestures on a daily basis, 90% he's faking it.
2. Men doesn't care about too much texting and calling for hours. (Surprise!) They only use these things for gaining important information, or to kill some time, but definitely not for relationships. But if he's texting and calling you on a daily basis, he's definitely into you.
3. Men are highly visual creatures, they feel things when they see it, unlike women who feel things on what she hears. If he makes a lot of plans to meet you, and take time out for you, yupp, love is there. If he has a special picture of you somewhere prominent like a bedside table, love is there. If he always wants to see how you look through photos, for LDRs or online relationships, then love is there. If he gazes at you in a mesmerised way then definitely, love is there.
4. Men forget important dates, forget to text you back, or call you sometimes. As I said, they don't operate on these things. But if he calls you back within a suitable time, or replies you in decent time, or better picks up your call even for 10 seconds to let you know he's busy, yes you're important to him.
5. Men can't multi-task. If he's in office, or studying, or reading, or purchasing a cauliflower, you're not on his mind. Accept it. Unless you've been dating him for less than six months( in that case he will see your face even in cauliflower.) But if he drops everything when you call him, crying, and listen to you, well he's totally in love.
6. His mother and sister are the most important women for him in this world. Their category is totally something else. If he places you third in the list, drop down everything and stick to him like an octopus. That's a clear sign of subtly telling how much you mean to him to join the important ladies group. And if they know about you, please start happy dancing !
7. He talks about his future, and includes you in everything. He uses the word “us” more than “me”.
He may not call you by mushy names, he may not plan big surprise birthday parties for you, may not bring you flowers every other day, may not shower you with expensive gifts, but if he works hard to give you a comfortable life, then he's worth it.
8. Loyalty. He may be surrounded by ladies, but he makes sure everyone of them knows he's taken and belong to his girl.
9. Men are not good listeners, or talkers, for that matter. He doesn't care about what your friend's boyfriend said to her when they went out on a date. He doesn't care how pink and baby pink are different colors, he cannot tell the difference after you get a haircut, and he doesn't notice if you look an inch shorter or taller in those heels. But ladies, if he's trying to actually listen to you, give him that. Listening is a great task for men, unlike women(we can talk and listen effortlessly.) Men really have to puts efforts when you talk endlessly. He loves you if he actually even tries.
10. He treats you like his best friend.
11. He cooks for you.
12. He doesn't care much how you're looking. You can look sleepless, sleepy, homeless, starved, and even then if he chooses to stick around, marry him.
13. He helps you out whenever you need him.
14. He doesn't bring up the sex until and unless you're comfortable. He won't touch you without your consent, ever.
15. Men can go silent for days in a stretch, it's just their way of coping with stress. Just like women talk more in stress. But if he comes back and talk normally after certain amount of time, yes, love is present.
16. Men are afraid of deep commitment. He can be totally in love with you, but when he senses too strong and intense chemistry, he runs away for his freedom and sense of identity, which is just the opposite of feminine quality. Women feel most happy when they feel an intense chemistry with their man. But if, after running away, he comes back to you with all his love, then he's the one ladies.
17. When he doesn't try to force things on you but gives you time to make up your mind.
18. When he fights with you, but forgives you rather quickly.
19. When he actually fights to keep the relationship going.
20. He can't bear to see you cry and comforts you, tries to solve your problems and does everything to make you feel better.
21. He actually takes care of your health, asking about your diet and all.
22. He respects your family.
23. He respects your advice, opinion, your dreams and ambitions, your self identity, motivates you, and doesn't try to monitor your every movement like a satellite. 24. He trusts you.
25. He asks for your help and advice when he really needs it. And for a man, asking for help is REALLY BIG.
26. The last and the most important one. You can be damn sure that a man loves you much more than he shows when he opens up to you emotionally. For women, it is no big deal, but for men, if they are talking about their inner most feelings, there has to be trust and love on a very deep level.
So dear women, don't evaluate if he loves you or not based on the things which you expect him to do. Understand he's a man and is different from you psychologically, so he will show his love in his own ways. Keep your heart open. You'll feel it.
Men are difficult to understand. Women struggle hard when it comes to understanding the man they love, but if you're observant and patient, men are comparatively simpler. Here are some points to check to know if he's really in love or not..
1. Men don't say they love you. Unlike women, who are always vocal about her feelings, men keep their feelings unsaid. But, if a man really loves you, it will show in his actions. For eg : if you tell him that you need him, he will be there for you. If a man is excessively vocal, and make big gestures on a daily basis, 90% he's faking it.
2. Men doesn't care about too much texting and calling for hours. (Surprise!) They only use these things for gaining important information, or to kill some time, but definitely not for relationships. But if he's texting and calling you on a daily basis, he's definitely into you.
3. Men are highly visual creatures, they feel things when they see it, unlike women who feel things on what she hears. If he makes a lot of plans to meet you, and take time out for you, yupp, love is there. If he has a special picture of you somewhere prominent like a bedside table, love is there. If he always wants to see how you look through photos, for LDRs or online relationships, then love is there. If he gazes at you in a mesmerised way then definitely, love is there.
4. Men forget important dates, forget to text you back, or call you sometimes. As I said, they don't operate on these things. But if he calls you back within a suitable time, or replies you in decent time, or better picks up your call even for 10 seconds to let you know he's busy, yes you're important to him.
5. Men can't multi-task. If he's in office, or studying, or reading, or purchasing a cauliflower, you're not on his mind. Accept it. Unless you've been dating him for less than six months( in that case he will see your face even in cauliflower.) But if he drops everything when you call him, crying, and listen to you, well he's totally in love.
6. His mother and sister are the most important women for him in this world. Their category is totally something else. If he places you third in the list, drop down everything and stick to him like an octopus. That's a clear sign of subtly telling how much you mean to him to join the important ladies group. And if they know about you, please start happy dancing !
7. He talks about his future, and includes you in everything. He uses the word “us” more than “me”.
He may not call you by mushy names, he may not plan big surprise birthday parties for you, may not bring you flowers every other day, may not shower you with expensive gifts, but if he works hard to give you a comfortable life, then he's worth it.
8. Loyalty. He may be surrounded by ladies, but he makes sure everyone of them knows he's taken and belong to his girl.
9. Men are not good listeners, or talkers, for that matter. He doesn't care about what your friend's boyfriend said to her when they went out on a date. He doesn't care how pink and baby pink are different colors, he cannot tell the difference after you get a haircut, and he doesn't notice if you look an inch shorter or taller in those heels. But ladies, if he's trying to actually listen to you, give him that. Listening is a great task for men, unlike women(we can talk and listen effortlessly.) Men really have to puts efforts when you talk endlessly. He loves you if he actually even tries.
10. He treats you like his best friend.
11. He cooks for you.
12. He doesn't care much how you're looking. You can look sleepless, sleepy, homeless, starved, and even then if he chooses to stick around, marry him.
13. He helps you out whenever you need him.
14. He doesn't bring up the sex until and unless you're comfortable. He won't touch you without your consent, ever.
15. Men can go silent for days in a stretch, it's just their way of coping with stress. Just like women talk more in stress. But if he comes back and talk normally after certain amount of time, yes, love is present.
16. Men are afraid of deep commitment. He can be totally in love with you, but when he senses too strong and intense chemistry, he runs away for his freedom and sense of identity, which is just the opposite of feminine quality. Women feel most happy when they feel an intense chemistry with their man. But if, after running away, he comes back to you with all his love, then he's the one ladies.
17. When he doesn't try to force things on you but gives you time to make up your mind.
18. When he fights with you, but forgives you rather quickly.
19. When he actually fights to keep the relationship going.
20. He can't bear to see you cry and comforts you, tries to solve your problems and does everything to make you feel better.
21. He actually takes care of your health, asking about your diet and all.
22. He respects your family.
23. He respects your advice, opinion, your dreams and ambitions, your self identity, motivates you, and doesn't try to monitor your every movement like a satellite. 24. He trusts you.
25. He asks for your help and advice when he really needs it. And for a man, asking for help is REALLY BIG.
26. The last and the most important one. You can be damn sure that a man loves you much more than he shows when he opens up to you emotionally. For women, it is no big deal, but for men, if they are talking about their inner most feelings, there has to be trust and love on a very deep level.
So dear women, don't evaluate if he loves you or not based on the things which you expect him to do. Understand he's a man and is different from you psychologically, so he will show his love in his own ways. Keep your heart open. You'll feel it.
